April 24, 2025

How do I deal with my BF embarassing me in social situations?

My (30M) boyfriend (30M) of 2 years is a self-proclaimed social butterfly and he truly is one of the most extroverted people I know. He’s very outgoing, funny, and loves being around people. Listening to this man try and participate in group conversations makes me want to scream. He has to follow-up every comment someone makes with mini-stories that revolve around him. It’s not just that, but he throws in little details to every story that are completely irrelevant, all while talking a million miles a minute. I can see people’s eyes glazing over and can taste their lack of interest by the quick chuckles and no follow-up questions. It truly embarrasses me.

Last night we were at a friend’s house for a low-key birthday party with charcuterie and some drinks. There were about 6 of us (myself and him included) sitting around the dining room table for most of the evening talking. We weren’t talking about anything serious or heavy – just about our weeks, recent vacations, things we had bought at TJ Max lol etc. My friend who was hosting pointed out this little end table he had bought last week. As soon as my boyfriend sensed a pause, he jutted in, “It reminds me of a table my Uncle Bill had at his house… well it was actually his ex-wife’s house… and I think her mom used to live there before she died of lung cancer… but his table had different legs on it and I don’t think it had a drawer”…. And everyone’s just like ….ok…… Just little things like that ALL EVENING. He has no brevity when he talks. He can’t just make a comment. He could’ve said “Oh my uncle used to have a table like that!” and that would have fit so much more naturally in the flow of the conversation.

Another example – one of our friends was talking about how she’s had to take her dog to the vet a lot recently because she was sick, didn’t get better, ended up getting labs, follow up appts etc. It was a conversation with the whole table – people asking questions as she was talking like “oh what were her symptoms?”, “was she vomiting at night or in the day time too?”, “what were they concerned for?” etc etc etc. My friend kind of ended the topic with saying how she’s glad her dog is better now and that all the vet visits were worth it to make sure it wasn’t something sinister. My boyfriend follows up with “my dogs hate going to the vet – I usually have to give them trazodone beforehand. One week when I was going on a work trip, aqua_shadow watched them and I think gave them gave them trazodone while he was gone to work so they wouldn’t be anxious and I think they like it too much now hahah” again…. Everyone’s like …. Ok…. And the rest of us just keep having A NORMAL CONVERSATION BECAUSE WE KNOW HOW TO DO SO.

How do I approach this? I’m legit starting to get embarrassed to bring him around people. He can’t make a brief statement of agreement, brief comment, brief anything. And he never asks any questions without the intent of following up with his story. I’m exhausted and embarrassed and need to know how to handle this. I think it will really hurt his feelings and deflate him.

April 24, 2025
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April 24, 2025

I (18M) need my girlfriend (19F) to give me time alone to study.

It might sound a bit outlandish but yes you heard that correct. I have exams in 8 months that i really need to buckle down for, however my girlfriend is not helping. Ive shown this concern many times as im busy 5 days of the week and i need to at least start revision very very soon, if not right now. she is not nearly as busy as i am and shes beginning to distract me from my work and expects me to drop everything for her. I asked my mother about this and she said that my career is what keeps me stable and alive and therefore if im being severely held back then i should end things. i want to stay together with her because she makes me really happy but she needs to understand that i have to study but she keeps just coming over or spam messaging me, demanding attention and therefore i get literally nothing done. i take my studies and my career very seriously and its starting to jeopardise both. how would i go about bringing this up with her?

April 24, 2025
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April 24, 2025

I think my best friend has a crush on my husband. Is it just in my head?

My friend goes through one scumbag boyfriend after another, she has horrible luck with guys. The last few months she hasnt dated anyone, which is odd for her, she hates being alone. My husband is a wonderful man, you couldnt ask for anyone better. She knows how happy he makes me and how awesome he it. I think maybe she's developed feelings for him, after all the crap she's dated I can see why she'd fall for someone she knows is a nice guy. I dont think she would ever try to "take" him or anything like that, it's just a little unsettling.

Lately whenever she wants to come over she's been asking me if my husband is working, what time he gets off, stuff like that and she only ends up coming over if he is here or going to be here soon. That's a new thing, she's never cared before if he was here or not. She also seems to be trying to get him alone (I admit this could just be my head messing with me), asking me to go out and get random stuff or asking him to drive her somewhere when normally she'd ask me. She's also been dressing up when she comes over. I'm used to seeing her in sweats and a T shirt but the last few months every time she comes over she's dressed like she's going on a hot date.

You guys think this could just be in my head or is it something I should worry about?

Sorry for any typos or grammar mistakes, I've been drinking.

Edit: oh and about a year ago we were all drunk and had a threesome.

April 24, 2025
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April 24, 2025

African proverb

"The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth"

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April 24, 2025

Turkish Proverb

“When a clown moves into a palace, he doesn’t become a king. The palace becomes a circus.”

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April 24, 2025

Sun Tzu

"An evil man will burn his own nation to the ground to rule over the ashes."

April 24, 2025
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April 24, 2025

Hubert Reeves

"Man is the most insane species. He worships an invisible God and destroys a visible Nature. Unaware that this Nature he's destroying is this God he's worshiping."

April 24, 2025
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April 24, 2025

Theodore Roosevelt

“To announce that there must be no criticism of the President, or that we are to stand by the President, right or wrong, is not only unpatriotic and servile but is morally treasonable to the American public.”

April 24, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Rubio breaks silence on leaked Signal chat: 'Someone made a big mistake'

Rubio breaks silence on leaked Signal chat: 'Someone made a big mistake'

For the first time since the Signal chat exchange debacle was revealed this week, Secretary of State Marco Rubio admitted "someone made a big mistake" in adding a journalist to a group chat.
April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

President Donald Trump has announced a 90-day pause on tariffs, except for China

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Trump Signs Executive Order Requiring Proof of Citizenship In Elections

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Tourism Pullback and Boycotts Set to Cost U.S. a Staggering $90 Billion

Tourism Pullback and Boycotts Set to Cost U.S. a Staggering $90B

Foreigners are avoiding the U.S. over concern and anger about Trump’s policies.
April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Trumps 'Great Time to Buy' Claim Before Tariff Pause Raises Insider Trading fear

Trump's 'Great Time to Buy' Claim Hours Before Tariff Pause Raises Insider Trading Concerns

President Donald Trump's post claiming it is a "great time to buy" hours before announcing a tariff pause has sparked concerns of possible insider trading.
April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

California to Negotiate Trade With Other Countries to Bypass Trump Tariffs

California to negotiate trade with other countries to bypass Trump tariffs

Gov. Gavin Newsom said California will look for new trade opportunities.
April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Joe Rogan Experience #2308 - Jordan Peterson

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Does anybody else feel frustrated with predatory ads on podcasts?

If I get one more ad for Better Help or Quince I'm going to scream. Both of them are green washing, non-transparent and predatory. Not only that, but it seems like every single podcast these days is sponsored by them! How is it that podcasts can only be sponsored by a handful of companies?

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

New Yorker recommends best podcasts of 2024

Top 5:

5. “Backfired: Attention Deficit”

This year, the reliably topnotch podcaster Leon Neyfakh (“Slow Burn,” “Fiasco”) collaborated on the new show “Backfired” with an equally strong co-host, Arielle Pardes, releasing two first-rate series—both, essentially, about drugs. Neyfakh, whose previous work has contextualized political and cultural phenomena (Iran-Contra, Watergate, Michael Jackson), applies that approach to the history of American attention spans and the uppers that deal with them. Here and in “Backfired: The Vaping Wars,” we learn about the makers of the drugs as well as their users, and the complex interplay—of mental health, anxiety, calm, focus, and, essentially, the human condition—that can make understanding and treating our problems so difficult. Neyfakh delves into more personal territory than he has in the past—turns out he’s a big vaper, and a longtime dabbler in the stimulant arts—which enhances the series’ perspective and power.

4. “Not All Propaganda Is Art”

Benjamen Walker, whose venerable podcast “The Theory of Everything” embodies the spirit of its fiercely independent, creator-driven network, Radiotopia, released a magnum opus this year—a group biography, as he calls it, of the great mid-century writers Richard Wright, Kenneth Tynan, and Dwight Macdonald, with a generous dose of James Baldwin for good measure. All of them were supported at times by the Congress for Cultural Freedom, a transatlantic postwar organization secretly funded by the C.I.A., dedicated to promoting democracy and disparaging Communism—in short, spreading propaganda—through its support of highbrow art and intellectual journals. That, in itself, is amazing. But so is getting to know these writers and their work, seeming at once lifetimes away from our world and shockingly prescient, as we contemplate big questions about art, money, racism, the postwar cultural landscape, Orwell, communism, McCarthyism, and much more, with a frisson of conspiracy theory shivering beneath it all. What did the writers know, and when did they know it? And what does it all mean? Walker delves into this whirl of ideas and intrigue with zeal; he spent four years researching, and tracking down wonderfully obscure archival audio and writing, and it sounds at every moment like he’s thrilled to blow your mind. He just might if you can keep up with his. A companion series, “Propaganda Notes & Sources,” feverishly details his research.

3. “Chameleon: The Michigan Plot”

Drawing on hundreds of hours of secretly recorded F.B.I. audio, “Chameleon: The Michigan Plot,” hosted by the investigative reporters Ken Bensinger and Jessica Garrison, delves into the world of right-wing anti-government anxiety, paranoia, and misinformation; it also delivers a novel’s worth of vivid characters, so tragicomic they feel like satire. It centers on the right-wing Michigan militia accused of planning to kidnap Governor Gretchen Whitmer in 2020, a ragtag collective of true believers unwittingly plotting alongside government informants who helped train and organize them. Bensinger and Garrison tell the story with patience and care, blending narration, interviews, and absolutely bonkers F.B.I. audio, which is scary and funny, with the quality of high-grade eavesdropping. The results poignantly reveal the intersection of the personal (loneliness, isolation, male bonding), the political, and the hyped-up misinformation landscape (TikTok news, Facebook militias) that we might now call the manosphere. From the opening scene, when we hear audio of an informant driving his giddy supposed friends to meet their sting-operation doom, “The Michigan Plot,” by bringing us into the group, captures the strange bittersweet irony of how the desire for community, and even for connection, can sometimes lead to the destruction of both.

2. “The Belgrano Diary”

“The Belgrano Diary,” a London Review of Books series hosted by the appealingly Scottish-accented writer Andrew O’Hagan, sustains an irresistible mood as it relays a horrific story—that of Britain’s 1982 sinking of the General Belgrano, the second-largest ship in Argentina’s Navy, in the early days of the Falklands War, and the political opportunism that surrounded the attack. (Borges described the war, O’Hagan says, as “two bald men fighting over a comb.”) The operation, which killed three hundred and twenty-three men, sparked patriotic fervor (“gotcha,” Rupert Murdoch’s tabloid The Sun declared) and made Margaret Thatcher a hero overnight. But the diary of Narendra Sethia, a British supply officer on the attacking submarine, sharply contradicted the government’s account and justifications; when its contents were made public, Parliament rang with war-crimes accusations. O’Hagan reinvestigates the story, tracking down seemingly every important surviving character in it, including Sethia, now living with rescue dogs on a secluded hilltop in the Caribbean. The series is full of riveting audio: O’Hagan’s thoughtful and intrepid interviews, maddening archival clips (“Rejoice!” Thatcher says), diary excerpts, and tasteful, evocative sound design (waves lapping, pen scratching across paper, hypnotic original music by Joel Cox). A masterly sequence of the attack, in which a traumatized Sethia compares the sound of the ship breaking up to the shattering of an eighteenth-century ballroom chandelier (“tinkling, tinkling, tinkling, tinkling”), is emblematic of the series’ unforgettable blend of elegance and savagery.

1. “Noble”

I don’t know what it says about me, or about this year, that my favorite podcast was about hundreds of dead bodies found in the woods, but “Noble,” unlike its subject matter, was a wonderful surprise. Hosted and reported by the Atlanta-based journalist Shaun Raviv, it’s a gripping, thoughtful, perfectly balanced meditation on death and our relationship to its practicalities, via the stunning story of the 2002 discovery of three hundred and thirty-nine bodies scattered across the grounds of a rural Georgia crematorium. The series begins with a description of the cremation process (“It takes twenty-eight gallons of fuel, and a spark, to burn a human body”), continues to a former gas man recalling an unsettling sight on a delivery (“Just the foot?” “Just the foot”), and proceeds to a well-written and thoroughly reported saga about a community trying to make sense of the incomprehensible. Campside Media, founded in 2019, has made some of the most sophisticated podcasts to come out in recent years, and like those—“Suspect” and “The Michigan Plot”—“Noble” tells a riveting, troubling story ethically and with respect for the people at its heart. As it contemplates the side of death we really don’t want to know about (“We treat dead bodies like they’re precious, sacred even, but we’re also revolted by them—the way they smell, the way they look,” Raviv says), “Noble” illuminates much about the essence of human connection

The Best Podcasts of 2024

Despite industry turmoil, old and new shows continue to innovate, whether investigating Elon Musk, high-school mysteries, or our relationship to death itself.
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April 23, 2025

What are the top 5 podcasts you loved listening to this year?

Hey everyone! As someone who’s diving deeper into podcasts, I’ve been curious about what’s catching people’s attention this year.

Whether it’s comedy, true crime or Reddit stories, I’d love to know the podcasts you couldn’t stop listening to!

Drop your top 5 below (or even just one if it’s your favorite), and let’s build an ultimate 2024 podcast list!

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Investigative journalism but NOT about murder or abuse

I saw a post recently with lots of suggestions of investigative journalism podcasts but so many were true crime. Would love any non-violent suggestions! Thank you!

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Justin Tucker accused of inappropriate sexual behavior by 6 massage therapists

Ravens' Justin Tucker accused of inappropriate behavior by six massage therapists

Women say Justin Tucker repeatedly exposed his genitals and, in three instances, apparently left ejaculate on tables after massages.
April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

\Mayfield fights off Bosa with a stiff arm, completes pass to convert 4th down

April 23, 2025
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NFL
April 23, 2025

It's overdue for the NFL to use technology to determine ball placement

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Mayfield throws to Evans to get him his 11 straight 1000 yard receiving season

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

The Jets have informed Aaron Rodgers that they are moving on.

JPAFootball (@jpafootball) on Threads

The #Jets have informed Aaron Rodgers that they are moving on, per @JayGlazer Where will Rodgers play in 2025?
April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Saquon Barkley breaks a tackle, spins away and hurdles another defender

April 23, 2025
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NFL
April 23, 2025

[Mic'd Up] Kobie Turner, advocate of "sitting like an old man"

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Jayden Daniels throws a last second Hail Mary and Noah Brown catches it to win

April 23, 2025
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April 23, 2025

Cooper DeJean pick-six on his birthday

April 23, 2025
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NHL
April 23, 2025

Callahan gets a Double Minor for cross check. Should this be a suspension?

April 23, 2025
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NHL
April 23, 2025

Devils & Wild mutually agree to go to OT

April 23, 2025
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